How do I make important decisions

How do I make the right decision? 12 tips

In order to always make the right decisions in life, head, stomach and heart must ideally interact. You can learn this through the following 12 tips and methods.


1. Trust your intuition

That's easier said than done. Because our mind often drowns out our intuition or we have completely forgotten how to follow our inner voice. But you can learn to reconnect with her. Because this impulse, which many also perceive as a gut feeling, comes from experience-based knowledge that is stored in the subconscious.

If, on the other hand, your head is telling you all the points, but your stomach is quietly telling you “Do it!”, Then you shouldn't ignore this quiet voice, but listen to it. Because the right decisions are rarely made by the head alone. Only if the gut also agrees with the rational arguments, there is a high probability that we are correct.

2. Listen to your heart

In addition to the head and stomach, the heart also has a say when it comes to decisions. Very often the heart and stomach agree and can overrule the mind. Then we stand behind our decision wholeheartedly and can also accept a wrong decision more easily. However, if heart and stomach do not agree, you should rather trust your intuition, because it subconsciously follows your experiences.

3. Accept the uncertainty

Very insecure people and people who tend towards perfectionism shy away from big decisions before they have thought through every smallest detail and played it through several times. However, life always has surprises in store that you cannot foresee. A certain amount of uncertainty resonates with every decision, which cannot be prevented. That is why you prefer to focus on the fundamentals instead of wanting to see the big picture.

4. Focus on the basics

Do you have a job offer in a new city, even in a foreign country? Then you have to make several decisions at once: change jobs, move, emigrate. Possibly with the whole family. This will completely change your previous life and that of your family too.

In order to make the right decision here, it is worthwhile to concentrate on the basics: Do I even want to live in another country? Because that will probably be the biggest step. If your gut feeling sends you a clear signal here, follow it.

5. Develop routines

With the small, everyday decisions that are sometimes difficult, routine can be a good help. Especially if you have a job in which you organize your working day independently: For example, as a freelancer, self-employed person, housewife or student, it is important to develop certain routines. They relieve you of minor decisions and give your day structure.

It can be very small, inconspicuous things: you can lay out the clothes that you want to wear the next morning every evening or you establish fixed rituals and procedures in the morning, such as a daily 5-minute coffee on the balcony or 10 minutes of gymnastics after getting up on time. Small routines help you to start the day in a structured way with an open eye for the important things.

6. Know your needs

Your partner thinks the car you like so much is no good. You want to go on vacation in a certain country, but your friends advise against it. You don't feel happy in a relationship, but you are afraid that a breakup would be socially disadvantaged for you.

But: what do you want? What makes you happy? What is really important to you? Sometimes we have to disregard the opinion of others with a decision in order to live our longings. If your heart and stomach clearly say yes, you should do what you think is right - not what the others advocate.

7. Formulate goals

Concentrating on your inner voice helps you to identify the goal of your actions: What do I actually want? What am i intending? Because whether a decision is right depends on which goal you are pursuing and want to achieve.

Different goals require different measures. Knowing your goals will make it easier for you to make the right decisions and stand behind them for the long term. You will know that you have made this or that decision with a view to a certain goal and, in retrospect, you no longer doubt it so often.

But even with larger decisions in the job or in a relationship, it is advisable not to overdo it, so as not to be buried under a crippling flood of information. As the saying goes: Many cooks spoil the broth.

When you make an important decision, look at yourself first and listen to your inner voice to help you determine your goals. Then consult selected friends and sources of information for advice and considerations. Quality comes before quantity and it will be easier for you to make an informed decision.

8. Reduce the complexity

Often it is difficult for us to make decisions because we focus too much. The possibilities to inform us have become infinite in the digital age and, for example, let even the smallest purchase decisions get out of hand in endless research.

We used to just buy the product that the retailer in our town had in stock. Today we first go through countless reviews, compare prices on various online portals and, if possible, also refer to numerous friends via social media. Is that really necessary with such small things?

9. Set a deadline for yourself

Postponed is not canceled, and at some point you have to make a decision. Therefore, set yourself a deadline by which you can weigh up the advantages and disadvantages. This period should not be too short and not put you under pressure. But you have to make your decision up to this self-chosen time. Because the longer we postpone this moment, the more insecure we become - and the decision in no way makes it easier.

10. Sleep on it for one night

The above deadline should not be on the same day. Because it has definitely proven its worth to sleep one night over important decisions. Our thoughts are sorted during sleep. What we would have done spontaneously, emotionally driven, we may see the next morning with completely different eyes. Only if we made the same decision the next day as the day before is it a good one.

11. Trust yourself

Finally, the only advice left is to simply trust yourself and accept failure or a wrong decision. Because we often stay in our comfort zone because it is simply more comfortable for us or we feel unsafe. But deep down inside we would like to be more adventurous and courageous to try something new. That's why you dare! You are doing something for yourself and you will become more confident.

12. Stick to your decision

Once you've made up your mind, stick with it. Even if those around you criticize it - only you know what is best for you. If it turns out that your decision was not a good one, don't regret it. The moment you made up your mind, everything spoke for it. And circumstances can change.

In addition, very few things are set in stone. Should a course correction be necessary, there will certainly be a possibility. Wrong decisions can result in completely new opportunities that will still help you advance in life.

If you still fear big decisions, start small. Practice making decisions based on your intuition in everyday situations. Listen to your gut. The more you perceive this quiet voice in you, the more clearly it will speak to you when making important decisions and help you to do the right thing.