Can you teach at home at night

"I am at my absolute limit": teacher AND mother of small children - who should do that? Affected report

BERLIN. The burdens are currently great for teachers who manage distance teaching and often also have to look after pupils in attendance. The burdens are currently no less for parents who have to combine work and care for their own small children, including homeschooling. But what if both challenges come at the same time in the Corona crisis - the one in the teaching profession and the one as a parent? Two mothers and teachers report.

It is enough again on January 28, 2021 at 10:46 p.m.

I myself am a teacher at the grammar school, have only small classes (5 and 6) in math and physics and the very big students in math, i.e. 11 and 12. The 12 students should soon do their Abitur. Everyone, the students and their parents, rely on me and want me to organize the lessons in such a way that the students are motivated and can solve the tasks on their own. In addition, my school management requests that online lessons be carried out according to the normal timetable, preferably in the form of video conferences. Unfortunately, it is not enough to take part in silence and without a picture, you are the leader of this event.

The preparation of the online lesson takes three times as long as normal lessons, if you want to make it appealing and challenging, then with private, not necessarily well-suited technology. I am not systemically important. My children were at home. Just teaching my daughter (1st grade) under the guidance of her teacher takes several hours with breaks.

“At night I would have peace and quiet to work. But then I can usually no longer "

Besides, my three-year-old son wants to play with me and be close to me. At the same time, I am bombarded with e-mails from students, school management, Kita management, my daughter's class teacher, new regulations and and and. Work doesn't really work during the day, maybe some administrative stuff when the children play alone. At night I would have peace and quiet to work. But then I can usually no longer. Whenever the children were with Grandma for a day or a few more, I worked from early in the morning until late in the evening, not even being able to eat. In the meantime, the 11th and 12th class come back to school in an alternating model. That makes me systemically relevant and the kids go to emergency care.

Like all other parents, I have the option of taking childhood sick days so that I don't have to work. But who will take care of my students then? Who is writing to them to see how they are doing, whether they are coping, and whether they can motivate themselves. Who will teach them math and physics? The colleagues who have enough to do with their students themselves?

I think there are many parents who have a similar responsibility and cannot just leave their work behind. Perhaps there is also the fear of falling behind in the competition because you have to look after your children. But I don't think it's right to condemn parents across the board who are overwhelmed at home and who demand care from daycare and school. I could well imagine spending the whole day alone with my kids. But the responsibility to my students and the guilty conscience that would arise is too great. You always say that you can't please everyone, but that is exactly what is required of parents now.

Those who have no children cannot have a say because they lack imagination. And simply to say: It's your own fault, you wanted to insinuate children and thus the parents that they would only get the children to hand them over directly, I find not only cheeky and strange, but simply unworldly. I wish all parents a lot of strength! You really do a lot during this time!

Momo January 23, 2021 at 3:54 pm

I am a teacher and mother at the same time and I am actually a lockdown with distance learning advocate (at least in the current situation)! Aaaaaaaber: I actually feel at my absolute limit. While there was talk of deceleration in the first lockdown, now I can only see an acceleration in everyday life.

All day long I chase after my own tasks and deadlines as well as the tasks and deadlines of my own children. Home office as a teacher constantly collides with the distance learning of their own elementary school children, who, although they are very independent, of course cannot cope with the tasks and video conferences on their own. I'm busy with school all day from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Although I consider myself very tough, I can no longer.

Emergency care for my own children is out of the question for me, my children also have a right to infection protection. In addition, they are only looked after there, so we would still have to do the many tasks together in the afternoon / evening. So I leave her at home and try to give 150% work every day at all levels in order to do justice to all tasks (school and private nature). Why is this stress, did it feel different in the first lockdown? It was easier. But why?

In my opinion, on the one hand, it is because distance learning is now often approached too ambitiously. My children are bombarded with tasks, friends and colleagues report the same about their children, a nationwide / cross-state problem. Not at all affordable for working parents (regardless of the occupational group). If high-performing children cannot cope with the daily quota of work, the goal is clearly too ambitious. Learning is no longer fun, all you have to do is work through stacks. Reading a text twice is impossible, otherwise you will not be able to complete the remaining tasks.

"The children are increasingly dissatisfied that they cannot maintain their social contacts as usual"

Another problem: You also want to be as digital as you can get, because in the second half of the second there is sometimes a lesson table and even the primary school students now have to complete a large number of video conferences every week. It should be mentioned: video conferences from 4th / 5th School year may still be fun for kids, but for my first grader it's pure psychological terror. A six-year-old child, who should actually learn to talk on the phone with ONE person at this age, should now make a video conference with TEN other children, the mothers sit next to them, i.e. at least TWENTY listeners in total. Pure pressure to perform !!! My child clasps my hand: “I hope I can't get my turn mom.” Of course, my child doesn't have to say anything if they don't want to, but they still feel embarrassed and embarrassed if they refuse to “give a statement” in the video conference.

What is now increasing the pressure is that the children are actually increasingly dissatisfied that they are not able to maintain their social contacts as usual. Since leisure activities are now very limited, the parents are actually even more in the role of having to keep the family happy. Children also have fears due to the extreme lockdown situation and the fear of corona, these fears now have to be absorbed and processed, as a rule, this absorption is done by the mothers.

"As a teacher and mother, I have to speak for the parents"

I like to spend time with my children and enjoy the time together, but this situation we are in right now is stressful for families. That has absolutely nothing to do with parents not wanting to keep themselves busy. Families are burdened because the situation is extreme and because the demands on families are too high.

As a teacher and mother, I have to speak for the parents someday. Parents are doing a lot right now, but are happy to be put in the “unwilling” or “unable” drawer when they “complain”. With the attitude "parents should just take care of themselves" one makes it too easy for oneself. The situation requires more than taking care of, the situation requires a 24/7 job.

Unfortunately, I don't see a solution to this dilemma at the moment. We are in this lockdown that I believe is necessary. But perhaps a rethinking has to take place, goals and claims must not be defined too ambitiously. Perhaps it should be considered whether this school year can be evaluated in order to relieve the students, teachers and families of the pressure to perform. But this is another topic ...

At this point it is important to note that the situation is not easy for parents. And that has absolutely nothing to do with whining. News4teachers

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