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Why is it so difficult to let go?

If you clicked on this blog article, then you probably find it difficult to let go of something or someone at the moment. You think that you can't get better until you've finally overcome these feelings, but it feels like an insurmountable hurdle to you. The good news: letting go is part of life and you will feel so much better when you finally make it. You can learn to let go! Everyone has to part with contaminated sites in order to be able to look further ahead. Letting go is a good thing! This can include, for example:

  • a person (or a pet) who (that) has died
  • an ex who left you or who you had to break up with
  • a lifelong dream that has burst
  • negative feelings of any kind that influence you too much (e.g. feelings of guilt, hurts, jealousy)
  • your children who move out of your house to have their own lives
  • Patterns of behavior that harm you
  • a job that makes you sick
  • an event from your past or your childhood

Finally close with the past and look ahead! In this article you will learn how to do it and why it is not that difficult at all.

The consequences of convulsively clinging to things, feelings or people that are not good for you or that have a negative impact on your emotions can be serious. These include:

  • Anxiety
  • sleep disorders
  • depressions
  • Stomach discomfort
  • a headache
  • Burnout

If you have one or more of these ailments, then you should be concerned about why you haven't been able to let go. It may well be that you have not yet admitted to yourself that it is now time to let go of the past. Sentences that you then often say to yourself are likely to go in this direction:

"If I let go of that now, who will I be?"

"I don't want to let go because I've invested so much and it feels like giving up"

"It will surely get better soon, something will change soon, I just have to persevere"

Negative Beliefs like these keep you from getting happy. Yes, you are scared, yes it will hurt, but when you finally let go of these feelings, you will become a new person who looks forward. You have to be worth more to yourself, because you deserve to have positive feelings in your life again and not to let the past dominate you.

We at Reset Your Head - Hypnosis Institute have dealt intensively with the subject of letting go. Our guided meditation with hypnotic elements learning to let go - recorded by David-Leonard Köppen, is there to finally let go of everything that blocks in order to be able to live even happier and more freely. Our audio hypnosis on the topic of strengthening self-confidence also contains elements that help you let go. As you rebuild your self-worth, you will find it easier to get rid of things that are holding you back from taking the next step towards the future.

The good news is: yes, you can Learn to let go! But you have to become aware beforehand that you are actually holding onto something. If you're reading this article, you probably already know. There's this feeling that just doesn't go away. You have to keep thinking about a person, a certain feeling or event from your past and you just can't get rid of it. Maybe you find it so difficult to let go because you don't really want to part with it. Let me therefore be told: It is a waste of time and draws you unnecessary energy if your thoughts are constantly revolving around something that you cannot (no longer) change. Think of it as a loop in your head that you play to yourself over and over again. Since this loop has no beginning and no end, it is almost endless and you cannot turn it off. In order for it to dissipate, you have to make it go away. But how does it work?

In fact, you can Things that won't let us go, divide into two categories. Things that you have control over and things that you have no control over. Make a list of the things that keep popping around in your head and then divide them into these two categories. For example, you can mark them red and green. Red are the things that you can no longer control. This can be, for example:

  • the death of a loved one / pet
  • Contact with someone who no longer wants to be in contact with you
  • a situation from the past that can no longer be changed

You no longer have any control over these things. They are closed and can no longer be changed, no matter how you twist and turn them. There is no longer any way for you to undo or dissolve it. You have no control It's a bitter pill, but it's also a relief if you make this clear to yourself. There is nothing you can do. For this very reason, it should be easy for you to let go of these past things. There are constant loops in your head that draw you energy and can no longer dissolve. Let them go.

You can mark things in green that you have control over. These are mostly situations with other people. This can be, for example:

  • a conversation with someone who owes you an explanation (or vice versa)
  • A question for someone that is still floating around in your head

Do you know when you see a missed call on your phone and can't reach the person when you call back? All day long you wonder what this person wanted. You keep thinking about it. When you finally speak to her and the situation clears up, your thoughts suddenly stop. This is exactly how it is when you take your courage together and deal with a situation from the past that haunts your head. Take a close look at the thought and try to find out exactly why you have to keep thinking about it. Often the reason is an unfinished business that has left unanswered questions. So what can you do

  • talk to the person concerned and close the matter
  • Write a letter / email to a person to whom you still want to say something. Say what is bothering you.
  • Clarify everything that still needs clarification. This is the only way you can finally finish.

Living in the past is not good for you. It prevents you from focusing on the present and the future. The past is past, you can learn from it and keep the memories, but you have to let go of the feelings about it, otherwise you will hold yourself up. Of course it's difficult and doesn't always work overnight. If you can see your loop in your head, however, you can work on resolving it or letting it go. Writing down the things that won't let you go can be a first step. Accept everything that you can no longer control and influence yourself and set about clarifying the things that you can still clarify. So the motto is: Complete or consciously let go! Your head will be cleared, filled with fresh energy and you can enjoy your life happily and relaxed again. With a little self-discipline, you can take things one by one and dissolve them forever. Remember, learn to let go is possible!

As simple as it sometimes sounds, many people find it very difficult to implement. Especially when it comes to letting go of a loved one, be it through a death or a breakup. You know you have to let go to forget, but you're also scared of it. This can have several reasons. Many people feel guilty when they begin to let go of someone who has passed away. Letting go by no means means forgetting this person. In this case, you have to let go of the sadness or other feelings that go along with the thoughts of these people. The person died, so you are no longer in control. Would this person want you to be unhappy because of them for so long? Letting go of someone just means letting go of the negative feelings that come with them. The memories remain anyway. If you actively and consciously choose to let go, you will soon be able to think back to the person with a smile.

If you've been abandoned and your ex mourns afterward, letting go is just as difficult. The problem here, too, is often that you don't want to let go at all. You want to hold on to this person because you are afraid of being on your own. Behind this is often a lack of self-confidence and a lack of self-worth. You now have to consciously build this up again in order to realize that you can have a fulfilled life even without this person. Those who are at peace with themselves and know their own strengths know that a new partner will come in the future. However, as long as you hold on to your ex, no new love can come into your life. Ask yourself: are you still in control of the situation? Do you think a conversation would change something? Then seek contact again. However, if your ex-partner's decision is clear, you have no more control. Then you have no choice but to let go. Your ex-partner lives on without you - and so should you. Take a close look at the negative feelings associated with the pain of letting go. Live it. Don't keep pushing it backwards, don't distract yourself, just let the pain happen. This is the only way to dissolve the endless thought loop in your head. This is the only way you can finally let go and end up feeling so much better.

If you have the feeling that nothing is working and letting go just doesn't work, there can be several causes.

  • You have not yet accepted reality (e.g. separation)
  • You don't want to forget and you don't want to let go
  • Life has a lesson for you and it wants you to learn something

Accepting that you have to let go of something is the first step. You cannot start letting go immediately after a loss. It is a long process in which you have to go through certain thoughts and feelings over and over again and look at them properly until you can decide for yourself that you want to let go now so that you feel better again. If you have accepted that, you are already a big step further. Before that, all the attempts are useless, because if you don't want to let go yet, then you are not ready yet. In this case, however, ask yourself how you benefit from holding on to the situation for longer. Is it really moving you forward? If instead it saps your strength, makes you unhappy and gnaws at your self-worth - which is very likely the case, then it is time to to accept reality.

Tip: Write down your thoughts and feelings. This is how you get them out of your head. Many of those affected find it helpful to write letters to the person they want to let go of. You don't have to mail this letter. If it helps, you can even burn it, bury it, or let it soar to the sky. Consciously take a few minutes a day to devote yourself to your thoughts and to put the feelings on paper. You allow yourself to deal with it. If you just keep repressing, then unfortunately nothing will change. Distraction is all well and good, and pushing away annoying and painful thoughts is a natural defense mechanism. But you notice yourself that the thoughts and feelings always find their way up. So check them out, deal with them - and then let them go. Just throw them out of your head.

  • Load yourself the meditation or theAudio hypnosis to support your subconscious in the process of letting go
  • Talk to other people who have had similar experiences and exchange ideas
  • Don't be afraid to seek professional help from a therapist
  • Allow yourself to grieve, but don't bury yourself in it
  • Don't expect too much at once
  • Start something new, e.g. a new hobby
  • Change the environment: Go on vacation, go abroad for a while and, if necessary, change your place of residence
  • Forgive yourself

From now on, concentrate on the present and your future. Life still has many surprises in store for you. With meditation or audio hypnosis, you can learn to relax again and increase your self-esteem. Let go of frustration and look forward to new positive energy in your life!